Out of Vault: This week, the Biffs bring you an episode with unaired segments from previous recordings. From Boston Globe's Love Letters, Stefani and Ray discuss a twenty-four years old's serial monogamy and her plea to ditch the habit. From The Slate's How To Do It, the Biffs learn about garden party- and kitchen table-polyamory when a writer's efforts at having all of their partners at their birthday party are stalled due to group dynamics.

The Biffs take on Reddit’s Am I The Assh*le again this week. A man’s culinary skills are challenged when his sister’s boyfriend marches out in a huff in search of his own hot sauce. When a man is sniffed by a dog at a pet-friendly eatery, he barks at it’s owners. Self-sufficiency is a lesson best learned at self-check out. Finally, a grown man is butt-hurt and lashes out against his girlfriend’s daughter for referring to him as creepy during school drop-off. [Casillero del Diablo 2022 Sauvignon Blanc]

In this week's episode, the Biffs, Stefani and Ray, read from the Reddit Am I The Asshole (AITA) thread. A man begs for judgement after serving his stay-at-home-mom wife with a performance evaluation based on the way she parents their children. Another Redditor brings her case before the internet after her roommate snitches on her to the landlord for refusing to move her sofa. [Miguel Vinho Verde]

Sally Land's Dear Deidre of the Sun.co.uk takes the stage this week, with some controversial advice topics. What do you do when the man of your dreams turns out to be your long lost half-brother - and you want to keep sleeping with him? A man is pocket dialed by his wife and listens in to her moans and groans before busting her at home. A love child threatens a family's livelihood. [Bonterra 2021 Zinfindel]

Natalie Bencivenga’s "Ask Natalie" is the center of the Biffs' conversations this week. It’s one thing to sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend, but it’s another thing entirely to keep it from her. A man questions his fidelity after hiding a sex toy purchase from his ailing wife. Finally, a cheating husband wants to have a sleepover with his mistress where he and his wife still live and share a home. It’s an episode of anecdotes and witty banter between Stefani and Ray. [Skouras 2021 Moscofilero]

In this week’s episode, Stefani and Ray read from Boston.com’s Love Letters, by Meredith Goldstein. A retreat from the familiar and the mundane inspires a left-field marriage proposal that the first writer only sees as a bandage to their problems. In the second letter, a woman introduces her boyfriend to her mother only to find out about their past sexual relations. Listen on to see what the Biffs have to say [Oyster Bay 2022 Pinot Gris]

In Best of the Biffs (Part V), listen to some of Stefani and Ray’s favorite questions from episodes 82 - Lemme Project These Hands, 79 - Polly Want a Condom, and 73 - Mt Me Beautiful. A man’s mismatched sex drive has him asking Natalie Bencivenga if opening his marriage is a good idea. ChatGPT gives the Biffs a wild scenario of a parrot blabbing about their owner all over the neighborhood. Eleanor Gordon-Smith publishes a response to a woman who’s witnessing the return of the mistress that ruined her marriage.

Stefani and Ray take to the Washington Post this week to read from Carolyn Hax's advice column. Nice guys finish last when a man's political correctness overrides chivalry. A woman questions whether to tell her five-month-old and three-year-old about her mother-in-law’s extra marital affairs. When a man’s mental health conditions start to affect his adult children, a mother ponders her place in divulging that information. [Spring Sangria, Coppola 2022 Pinot Grigio]

In this week’s episode, your Biffs talk advice from How to Do It’s (Slate.com) Rich Juzwiak. In the first question, the Biffs discuss a scenario where ex-lovers, apart for thirteen years, come back together only for one of the men to be completely put off by his roommate's comfortable appearance. Lastly, a woman is having a hard time trusting her husband when she uncovers his lies and his hidden panty and anal sex toy fetish. Stefani and Ray also talk red flags: Who’s are they? [The Dreaming Tree 2021 Pinot Noir]

Stefani and Ray read from the Ask Amy advice column. A writer questions her dying father-in-law’s legacy, when his reputation as a cop is tainted. Another asks about her friend’s penchant for venting on social media and whether she should approach her about it. Finally, a woman finds a secret life on her boyfriend’s cell phone, post-mortem, and can’t bring herself to mourn his passing. [Chateau Blaignan 2018 Red Blend]

The Biffs read from the classic Dear Abby column this week. A woman weighs the fairness of her husband’s ultimatum to choose between him or their son and his family. Another contemplates contacting her sweetheart’s other girlfriend just so that she knows she exists. A woman in a long-term relationship questions everything when her daughter and her partner’s son fall in love. The last writer wonders what to do about her sister’s knack for telling outrageous stories. [Harken 2020 Chardonnay]

In this week’s episode, the Biffs read from Zachary Zane’s Explain It Column from MensHealth.com. One man finds it hard to submit to his sexual desires when his not-sex-positive Mom who is all up in his business, is tracking his location. An older woman orders out frequently in hopes that she’ll one day get the nerve to seduce her delivery boy. Finally, a man ask’s for guidance in a situation where his girlfriend limit’s sex to two weeks per month, when he’s perfectly comfortable with sex during her cycle. [Amigo Perro 2021 Cabernet Sauvignon]

Stefani and Ray visit Natalie Bencivenga's, Ask Natalie column, in this week's episode. An engaged woman, three years into her relationship, questions her fiancé’s position against meeting her future in-laws. A woman is shamed by her friends when she wants to ghost on the man she’s been dating, after their first time in bed together. A sister’s drunken attempt at her brother-in-law, causes another writer to question helping her live-in, struggling sibling at all. [Château LaBorde 2018 Bordeaux Sauvignon]

Stefani and Ray take questions from the Facebook group, "High Value Feminine Women," in this week's episode. One woman reaches out to ask for advice in her relationship and winds up talking herself out of it mid-post. Another finds pictures of her man with his ex-wife, with whom he has a child, and questions the validity of the feelings she’s experiencing. Finally, the Biffs discuss another writer's question about standards and expectations between partners, and how to tell the difference. [Whispering Angel 2019 Rosé]

This week's episode is mini, but fun. The Biffs revisit Reddit's Am I the Asshole Thread. A man asks if he's a jerk for telling his aunt that her man's given up on her when she asks for advice. Another is put off by a yogi's theatrics in the sauna, as he downward-dogs and spreads without so much as a loincloth. Make sure to join us next week as we continue our dive into this thread. [Josh Prosecco Rosé]

Stefani and Ray visit the Metro.co.uk’s Agony Aunt, Em Clarkson, in this week’s episode. A writer worries about their best friend’s borderline obsession with her beau. One half a relationship has absolutely had it, but doesn’t know how to tell her husband that it’s over. OnlyFans becomes a topic for debate among the Biffs when a woman feels betrayed by her boyfriend after discovering his subscription. [Bota Box Sauvignon Blanc]

It’s another trip down memory lane this week. Follow along with the Biffs as they revisit columns from Dear Kiki, Urban Diplomat, and the Slate’s How To Do It. A woman dying to peg her boyfriend has a hard time finding the words to have the discussion with him. An employee walks into his Boss’s office only to find him watching films of the adult variety. A man going to town on himself is caught by his neighbor, whose trespass is, in part, due to a stray pussy [cat]. It’s the Best of the Biffs Part IV.

This week, the Biffs catch up with Carolyn Hax’s column on the Washington Post. A friendship that should stand the test of time doesn’t when one’s expectations go unmet. Weed - it’s what’s for dinner - and this dinner guest can’t keep their balance long enough to communicate their frustration over crossed boundaries. Dad’s playing sugar daddy while mom’s working extra hard to keep up with the bills on the heels of retirement. [Babich 2021 Sauvignon Blanc]

in their one-hundredth episode, honorary Biffs (the West Coast Biffs) Rachel Sievers and Ellie-the-Editor of the Answer to Everything Podcast, join Stefani and Ray to celebrate with a bottle of champagne. Ben is surprised and intrigued by his alter-ego Britney. Competitive tooth-brushing masks a fictional couple’s real issues. Cyber-ghosts haunt an imaginative and creative internet surfer. Join this foursome as they take on the internet with some “unrealistic, psychologically unsound scenarios” and responses generated by ChatGPT. Hate it. Love it. [Maybe] learn something? [Veuve Clicquot]

Happy New Year. This week's episode reflects on some of the best of 2023, as we work up to our centennial episode. Listen on and revisit more of their favorite columns, with questions from Ask Logan, Ask Daddy, and the Ethicist. A husband hides his wife's only form of sexual pleasure. A writer's partner wants to be his boyfriend when out and about, but prefers the pronoun "she" in private. An author questions her own ethics as she debates whether the murder she was a witness to is fair-game in her profession.