Full Episode Guide

Episode 92: Coke by Association

Episode 92: Coke by Association

Dear Mrs. Web, personal advice for your life, peaks the interest of the Biffs in this episode. A single, professional, young woman who has it all, questions why she actually has nothing aside from the material. Another woman’s near-, albeit dishonest tryst with her best friend’s fiancé, leaves her contemplating the benefits of coming clean years later. The final writer asks for what she’s doing in wrong in her efforts to make genuine friend connections. [Rio Lindo 2017 Syrah]

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Episode 91: Step-Friend

Episode 91: Step-Friend

This week, the Biffs revisit How To Do It, Slate.com's sex advice column. One writer’s question deals with a low-libido remedied by liquid courage. A husband’s size isn’t an issue for 19 years, until his wife makes a targeted crack in a drunken stupor. A college student’s knack for “face painting” get’s him in trouble with his girlfriend’s girlfriends, calling his respect for women to question. [Chronic Cellars Sir Real 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]

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Episode 90: Best of the Biffs (Part II)

Episode 90: Best of the Biffs (Part II)

In Best of the Biffs Part 2, relive some conversations from episodes such as Rectum Ralph, Aunty AITA, Side of Raunch, Gaslighty, and more. In these episodes, they cover some of your favorite columnist from Amy Dickinson to E. Jean Carolle, as well as some of your favorites from the Slate. Laugh at the ridiculous banter. Giggle at the over-reaching puns. Just another weekly chuckle with Stefani & Ray. It’s a wonder these Biffs have made it this far in life.

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Episode 89: Best of the Biffs (Part I)

Episode 89: Best of the Biffs (Part I)

Let’s take a walk down memory lane - a throwback to our first year in podcasting. A “Coffee Shop Karen” from episode 8, wants peace and quiet in a public establishment. From episode 9 (Let Him in Marjorie), a writer’s couples therapist dumps “them” for “him.” And finally, one really long hair on a toe in episode 5 (One Toe One Hair) is the only flaw that this writer sees in his partner.

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Episode 88: Pants Off or Zip It

Episode 88: Pants Off or Zip It

Stefani and Ray talk ‘Ask Amy’ in this week’s episode. A man in his 60s questions his cyber relationship with a twenty-something in the Philippines when he begins to support her financially, despite never having met. A husband snoops on his wife’s computer or phone while she’s using it. A past eating disorder is informing Mom’s present anxieties about her daughter’s possible relapse. And plucking stray-hairs off a shirt should be a sport, but this writer isn’t having it. [Carpineto 2019 Dogajolo Rosso]

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Episode 87: First Rule of Fight Cult

Episode 87: First Rule of Fight Cult

This week, the Biffs take on the Independent’s Virginia Ironside. A family’s dislike for their son’s ex-girlfriend intensifies when she decides to keep the child they conceived post-breakup. A mom writes in with the idea of kidnapping her daughter because she’s been brainwashed by a cult. Finally, a writer shows concern for their psychological health when their lack of empathy is self-diagnosed as psychopathy. [Zin-phomaniac 2019 Zinfandel]

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Episode 86: Night Humps

Episode 86: Night Humps

Stefani and Ray read from The Slate's Dear Prudence column, in this week's episode. A man grinds up against his girlfriend in his sleep, calling for his ex-. A woman discovers her wife's secret and mysterious checking account. Sister's quarrel over the importance of one's wedding over the other's vacation. Finally, a man is looking for the words to tell his boyfriend that he's not interested in living in the free home next-door to his parents. [Kadabra 2021 Malbec]

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Episode 85: A Hooded Temple

Episode 85: A Hooded Temple

It’s back to the classics this week with life advice from the one and only Dear Abby. A woman ponders her future with her husband after constant gaslighting following sexual assault. When the boyfriend is away for work, the naked, divorced spiritual advisor physically heals his girlfriend, then sleeps over. “Kennedy’s” volleyball future is threatened by Dad’s bigoted views on her trans coach. Finally, a wife’s had enough of her husband letting it all hang out. [Segura Viudas Cava]

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Episode 84: Advocating for the Devil

Episode 84: Advocating for the Devil

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole thread (Aunty AITA). A woman’s presumptuous boyfriend plans a work trip, leaving the responsibility of his kids to her. Someone gets defensive after their moment of levity backfires as insensitivity during a funeral. A professional with experience working with individuals diagnosed with ASD pushes the envelope with a friend about her child’s behaviors. Another writer catches mom’s wrath when he refers to someone as “baby momma.” [Azul y Garanza 2020 Tempranillo]

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Episode 83: Scientifically Fertile-Looking

Episode 83: Scientifically Fertile-Looking

The Biffs give Sally Land of The Sun’s Dear Deidre a run for her money in this week’s episode. What’s a man to do when his wife feel ‘dirty & disgusting’ showing him any sort of affection? Is it curtains for this woman’s cowardly nice-guy? Is Mom in the right to accept blame for her son’s inability to warm up to girlfriend? It’s an episode of conviction and impassioned conversation. [Commanderie du Bardelet 2019 Bordeaux Blanc (Sauvignon Blanc)]

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Episode 82 : Lemme Project These Hands

Episode 82 : Lemme Project These Hands

This week, the Biffs read Natalie Bencivenga’s Ask Natalie for the first-, and certainly not the last-, time. Things go awry for one reader after finding out her best friends knew about her husband’s affair. Following a one night stand, this writer wants to know if she should even trouble the standee for reimbursement related to the termination of the pregnancy. Low libidos bring husbands to consider a separate lover for the high-riding counterpart. [Cote Mas 2022 Rose Aurore]

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Episode 81: Those Weren’t My Britches

Episode 81: Those Weren’t My Britches

Agony aunt, Coleen Nolan, of UKs Mirror, takes center stage with the Biff's this week. Secret's out and a writer questions whether or not to bring up his partner's affair. Mystery boxers make it home with another writer's wife, following her work trip. A woman wants out of her six-month marriage when her husband begins to treat her as a possession. [90+ Cellars Prosecco]

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Episode 80: Dear Elad Vissad

Episode 80: Dear Elad Vissad

This week, the Biffs give advice in response to listener questions. It’s a soap opera scenario when a writer’s long lost twin ends up with her ex-. What we’re sure is a Lifetime movie plot gets a PBS response when a man confesses to his girlfriend that he’s investigating her family. Finally, a ghost-writing best friend wants in on the accolades that the credited author is receiving. Do you need advice? Send us your questions, comments, and all of your concerns to illadvisedthepodcast@gmail.com. [Chloe 2022 Pinot Grigio]

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Episode 79: Polly Want a Condom?

Episode 79: Polly Want a Condom?

The Biffs take on artificial intelligence this week with ridiculous questions generated by Chat GPT using the prompt, "Twisted questions and scenarios you would send the Biffs of Ill Advised w/ Stefani & Ray, an advice podcast." Let's take a break from the norm and take on a chatty parrot, a spell gone awry, gossiping rodents, and a family of buccaneers. How the AI platform responds will shock you. Don't miss the fun in this episode. [Nomadica Sparkling White]

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Episode 78: How to Kidnap Us

Episode 78: How to Kidnap Us

The BiFFs hit the Slate’s trusted How To Do It column this week. A barely legal young woman asks if she should go “all the way” with her step dad. A man’s stupid face is a barrier to getting his wife off. Lastly, learn how to handle a homophobic homosexual’s disturbing online persona. [Misty Cove Estate 2022 Sauvignon Blanc]

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Episode 77: Kudos For Gettin’ It

Episode 77: Kudos For Gettin’ It

It’s been a minute, so the BiFFs revisit Toronto Life’s Urban Diplomat this week for some fun discussion. Potty-mouth-Penny and her foul influence is tainting the carpool. Social media past puts a grad-school-grad’s career in jeopardy. An Uber rider isn’t keen on stars for stars. A pro-life sticker has potential for a spike in car insurance claims. Finally, a senseless streetcar rider shares her personal conquests on speakerphone.. and there were children around. [A de Arínzano 2020 Rosé]

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Episode 76: Pacha Mama

Episode 76: Pacha Mama

The BiFFs take to The New York Times’ The Ethicist Column, this week. A step-mother feigns love for her step-children, even decades later. Estranged siblings leave a writer debating going around the sister to meet nieces and nephews. Suspected child-abuse leaves a writer unable to reconcile their own ethical dilemma. [Pacha Reserva 2019 Carmenere]

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Episode 75: Charles Bundy

Episode 75: Charles Bundy

The BiFFs test their Sense and Sensitivity this week with Harriette Cole’s column. A woman puts herself on the line to hide her best friend’s affair. A woman flags her ex- for trying to worm his way back into their toxic situation. Mom’s feelings for gay dad cloud her judgement as a parent. Exes living under the same roof fail to set the ground rules for at-home-rebounds. [Prophesy 2019 Buttery Chardonnay]

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Episode 74: Non-Vegetarian Wine

Episode 74: Non-Vegetarian Wine

It's back to the classics this week for the BiFFs, with Dear Abby. A woman's willingness to help another, and protect her right to choose, leads to divorce. A husband's trips with his ex-wife and their daughters, leaves his new wife with unsettled tropical romance vibes. A sister in denial, spins her toxic relationship into post-mortem glorification. [Riff 2019 Pinot Grigio]

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Episode 73: Mt. Me beautiful

Episode 73: Mt. Me beautiful

This week, the BiFFs discuss The Guardian's advice column penned by Eleanor Gordon-Smith, with 'fupas on fleek.' Stefani and Ray discuss what body image is to a seven-month old baby, and how that translates to future perception. And a writer's ex-husband and children warm up to the mistress that destroyed their marriage twenty years earlier, when she re-enters their lives. [Mt. Beautiful 2022 Sauvignon Blanc]

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