In Best of the Biffs (Part V), listen to some of Stefani and Ray’s favorite questions from episodes 82 - Lemme Project These Hands, 79 - Polly Want a Condom, and 73 - Mt Me Beautiful. A man’s mismatched sex drive has him asking Natalie Bencivenga if opening his marriage is a good idea. ChatGPT gives the Biffs a wild scenario of a parrot blabbing about their owner all over the neighborhood. Eleanor Gordon-Smith publishes a response to a woman who’s witnessing the return of the mistress that ruined her marriage.

Stefani and Ray take to the Washington Post this week to read from Carolyn Hax's advice column. Nice guys finish last when a man's political correctness overrides chivalry. A woman questions whether to tell her five-month-old and three-year-old about her mother-in-law’s extra marital affairs. When a man’s mental health conditions start to affect his adult children, a mother ponders her place in divulging that information. [Spring Sangria, Coppola 2022 Pinot Grigio]

In this week’s episode, your Biffs talk advice from How to Do It’s (Slate.com) Rich Juzwiak. In the first question, the Biffs discuss a scenario where ex-lovers, apart for thirteen years, come back together only for one of the men to be completely put off by his roommate's comfortable appearance. Lastly, a woman is having a hard time trusting her husband when she uncovers his lies and his hidden panty and anal sex toy fetish. Stefani and Ray also talk red flags: Who’s are they? [The Dreaming Tree 2021 Pinot Noir]

Stefani and Ray read from the Ask Amy advice column. A writer questions her dying father-in-law’s legacy, when his reputation as a cop is tainted. Another asks about her friend’s penchant for venting on social media and whether she should approach her about it. Finally, a woman finds a secret life on her boyfriend’s cell phone, post-mortem, and can’t bring herself to mourn his passing. [Chateau Blaignan 2018 Red Blend]

The Biffs read from the classic Dear Abby column this week. A woman weighs the fairness of her husband’s ultimatum to choose between him or their son and his family. Another contemplates contacting her sweetheart’s other girlfriend just so that she knows she exists. A woman in a long-term relationship questions everything when her daughter and her partner’s son fall in love. The last writer wonders what to do about her sister’s knack for telling outrageous stories. [Harken 2020 Chardonnay]

In this week’s episode, the Biffs read from Zachary Zane’s Explain It Column from MensHealth.com. One man finds it hard to submit to his sexual desires when his not-sex-positive Mom who is all up in his business, is tracking his location. An older woman orders out frequently in hopes that she’ll one day get the nerve to seduce her delivery boy. Finally, a man ask’s for guidance in a situation where his girlfriend limit’s sex to two weeks per month, when he’s perfectly comfortable with sex during her cycle. [Amigo Perro 2021 Cabernet Sauvignon]

Stefani and Ray visit Natalie Bencivenga's, Ask Natalie column, in this week's episode. An engaged woman, three years into her relationship, questions her fiancé’s position against meeting her future in-laws. A woman is shamed by her friends when she wants to ghost on the man she’s been dating, after their first time in bed together. A sister’s drunken attempt at her brother-in-law, causes another writer to question helping her live-in, struggling sibling at all. [Château LaBorde 2018 Bordeaux Sauvignon]

Stefani and Ray take questions from the Facebook group, "High Value Feminine Women," in this week's episode. One woman reaches out to ask for advice in her relationship and winds up talking herself out of it mid-post. Another finds pictures of her man with his ex-wife, with whom he has a child, and questions the validity of the feelings she’s experiencing. Finally, the Biffs discuss another writer's question about standards and expectations between partners, and how to tell the difference. [Whispering Angel 2019 Rosé]

This week's episode is mini, but fun. The Biffs revisit Reddit's Am I the Asshole Thread. A man asks if he's a jerk for telling his aunt that her man's given up on her when she asks for advice. Another is put off by a yogi's theatrics in the sauna, as he downward-dogs and spreads without so much as a loincloth. Make sure to join us next week as we continue our dive into this thread. [Josh Prosecco Rosé]

Stefani and Ray visit the Metro.co.uk’s Agony Aunt, Em Clarkson, in this week’s episode. A writer worries about their best friend’s borderline obsession with her beau. One half a relationship has absolutely had it, but doesn’t know how to tell her husband that it’s over. OnlyFans becomes a topic for debate among the Biffs when a woman feels betrayed by her boyfriend after discovering his subscription. [Bota Box Sauvignon Blanc]

It’s another trip down memory lane this week. Follow along with the Biffs as they revisit columns from Dear Kiki, Urban Diplomat, and the Slate’s How To Do It. A woman dying to peg her boyfriend has a hard time finding the words to have the discussion with him. An employee walks into his Boss’s office only to find him watching films of the adult variety. A man going to town on himself is caught by his neighbor, whose trespass is, in part, due to a stray pussy [cat]. It’s the Best of the Biffs Part IV.

This week, the Biffs catch up with Carolyn Hax’s column on the Washington Post. A friendship that should stand the test of time doesn’t when one’s expectations go unmet. Weed - it’s what’s for dinner - and this dinner guest can’t keep their balance long enough to communicate their frustration over crossed boundaries. Dad’s playing sugar daddy while mom’s working extra hard to keep up with the bills on the heels of retirement. [Babich 2021 Sauvignon Blanc]

in their one-hundredth episode, honorary Biffs (the West Coast Biffs) Rachel Sievers and Ellie-the-Editor of the Answer to Everything Podcast, join Stefani and Ray to celebrate with a bottle of champagne. Ben is surprised and intrigued by his alter-ego Britney. Competitive tooth-brushing masks a fictional couple’s real issues. Cyber-ghosts haunt an imaginative and creative internet surfer. Join this foursome as they take on the internet with some “unrealistic, psychologically unsound scenarios” and responses generated by ChatGPT. Hate it. Love it. [Maybe] learn something? [Veuve Clicquot]

Happy New Year. This week's episode reflects on some of the best of 2023, as we work up to our centennial episode. Listen on and revisit more of their favorite columns, with questions from Ask Logan, Ask Daddy, and the Ethicist. A husband hides his wife's only form of sexual pleasure. A writer's partner wants to be his boyfriend when out and about, but prefers the pronoun "she" in private. An author questions her own ethics as she debates whether the murder she was a witness to is fair-game in her profession.

It's back to the Slate's "Dear Prudence" column for Stefani & Ray this week. A whole family dynamic shifts when a man decides against donating another sample of his own sperm to his sister and her wife. When another man's brother and best-man's tendency to hire escorts for dinner is exposed, his fiancee's reaction threatens to end their engagement. Lastly, a writer is angered and perplexed with their partner's self-diagnosed autism. Listen to the Biffs weigh-in on these complex issues. [1000 Stories 2018 Bourbon Barrel Aged Red]

In this week's episode, the Biffs read from Annie Lane's Dear Annie Column. A wife's secret sexual past leaves her husband of fifty years searching for the deep intimacy that once connected them. An adult couple is forced to exist behind closed doors when a man's family refuses to accept his girlfriend, for reasons unknown. A man struggles to find refuge in his girlfriend when she weaponizes his emotions for his dead wife for leverage in the relationship. [Ghost Pines 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]

The Biffs test their skills against advice from Coleen Nolan of the Mirror UK. A mother with knowledge of her daughter’s beau’s past questions whether to tell her or not. A man places a camera in the shower in hopes of spying on his wife and ending his 15-year-dry-spell. Finally, a woman meets a man at a wedding and suddenly she wants more than what her husband can offer. [Gualdo del Re, 2012 Sangiovese]

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole. A parent’s personal choice results in their child’s bullying and his shifting the burden to another family member. At a college party, a personal question about his penis prompts a writer to respond with a similar personal question about a co-ed’s level of baldness down-south. Navigate these interesting social situations with Stefani and Ray as they judge if these Redditors are assholes. [Novinophobia 2018 Chardonnay]

This Biffs regrettably follow-through with last week’s promise to revisit Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. Stefani and Ray differ in opinion on how to handle a situation when a baby sister is discovered to have a criminal record. A man transfers some of his angst and grief onto his partner following the passing of his ‘monster’ of a mother, and he doesn’t even see it. [The Pale 2022 Rosé]

This week’s episode features questions from Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. One writer wonders how to keep their mother from traumatizing their kid sister the same way they were affected, by breastfeeding them for too long. Another writer is questioning their contributions to a series of events when their friend tries to run them over with her new beamer. [Chateau de Lacarelle 2021 Beaujolais-Villages Rouge]